Author: Regina Phalange

Pay attention…

Regina Phalange

We are in a different world today. What is it though that many don’t understand? Why are so many being so combative? The situation is serious, and could potentially get worse before it gets better. The question is WHY are so many not following the rules? We have been given them (RULES) what is it that so many don’t ‘get?

We have to look at the science in all this, not the political side, not someone’s uneducated side, not someone’s harsh negative spouting side. We need to understand the science side and really pay attention to the why’s and the what’s of it all.

We all have STRONG onions about what is going on. We all want to get back to life as we know it. We all want normalcy. However unless we pay attention to the SCIENCE of it all we will simply run in a circle. Who wants to run in a circle about anything? Why would you want to?

Here is what I know…..
Take the round about way of thought. You have 4, 5, 6, etc. exits to jump on and see where it will take you. You can always jump back into the round about and exit another way. It may be better for you, if not, then another exit will be. The path we take is ours to take, we all make choices at times that aren’t the best……. But…….You have to keep trying….

Never say can’t, because you always CAN. Just try.

Stay safe, be calm, make good choices and wash your hands and often.

Educate, Advocate, and DO!

Regina Phalange

As we all sit, wait, think, grieve, hope and pray one thing we need to remember, Be Calm, Make Good Choice, wash your hands and often. I can’t street this enough from what I know, what I am educating myself with, from all sources readily accessible to me. I want to be in the know, so I can find some peace and comfort for my well being. Advocating what is important, washing your hands and often. If you can give support do, if you can’t it’s ok. This is where our communities need to pull together to power through!

Let’s talk about what’s most important! Stay connected to your family, your friends, the world of social media surrounds us now is the time to use it! STAY HOME! But be connected, and reach out to your people! Let others know they matter, pass words of wisdom, SMILE, LAUGH, because this too shall pass. We are all in this together, we can and will power through. But we need to STAY HOME. We need to follow the rules, just like we did when we were kindergartners. It is that simple!

Here is what I know, as I have mentioned before, we need to be Be Calm, Make Good Choices, wash your hands and often. This too shall pass. Smile, laugh, live your best life, because you CAN!

Are you calm? Are you making good choices?

Regina Phalange

It’s a really simple question. In these times we need to be. We need to educate, advocate, understand, your surroundings, be positive, do what is right! Be calm and make good choices!

If you can find a away to make someone’s day, safely, then do it! We all . need a reach out in these times! We have to be there for each other more then ever. Although this to shall pass, take a moment to do a simple action, reach out by checking in on your family, your community members. Simply make a phone call, a video message/chat, a text message, an email, sidewalk chalk messages, simple actions like this show you care. Be kind, treat people with kindness, each of us needs a little more of this.

Here is what I know….. Embrace your surroundings, be positive and share that with all of those around you, in a safe way! Simple actions, speak louder then words. Be safe friends, be calm, make good choices, wash your hands and often. We will power through!

As we start another day…

Regina Phalange

Take a moment today and think about our future generation. These soon to be young adults lives are in a spin. A whole new set of rules laid out in front of them. With the expectation that this is the “new normal”. As most adults we find the ways to adapt. The years of experiences we have had, brings us to make choices. Some good, some bad, some dumb, some smart, some questionable, whatever the choice is, we adults with years of experience know we have to adapt in certain situations. Our future generation is still learning this, and for them now, will have to learn it sooner then later.

Our future generation will have to manage their emotions on a whole new level, and it will something they will never forget this time. We are in a time were we can help them walk down a new path, learn a new way, understand distance in a new way, communicate their emotions without repercussions, living their best life as best they can right now. This is the “new normal”. This will be just as challenging, hard, difficult, maddening on them as it will be to we the adults who have years more experience and better understand how to adapt. We need to help our future generation adapt at their pace, at their understanding, our future generation needs us to help them, as much as they can help us.

Here is what I know…. Communicate effectively, be kind, smile and know this to shall pass and tomorrow is another day!

Stop….. Just STOP.

Regina Phalange

People, need to Stop, just STOP already. Not everything you read is going to make sense, or be true, or be right, or is real. SO STOP taking everything with a grain of salt. And do what we all can do together, LISTEN, simply LISTEN, shut your MOUTH’s and LISTEN. We are all reading to much into what is being put our in front of us.

Not being educated is effecting so many who aren’t paying attention, who aren’t doing one simple thing, that is to just LISTEN. Take in ALL what you hear, what you read, and LISTEN to it all, help yourself better understand on so many more levels then what you see and HEAR. There is a big difference between Hearing and Listening. I choose to LISTEN. It’s ok not to know it all, it’s ok to ask questions, it’s ok to want to be in the know. It’s what makes our curiosity grow and wonder. We can all be better people for it. Respect where others are coming from, they deserve it like you do.

Here is what I know…….. It takes a MIGHTY human to sit and LISTEN! Let’s practice that together!

Be Calm and Make Good Choices!

Regina Phalange

Here we are in a state I never thought I would experience. It’s almost movie like, each day it plays out more and more. We have no idea what and why and when and how this will all play out, until we let it. So with that, Be Calm and Make Good Choices people! Don’t fall into panic or choas. This to shall pass and we will all be stronger from it. Pulling together as a sensible people should. We need to take things seriously, stop pointing fingers, stop blaming, just STOP. Instead LISTEN, simply listen, pay attention, be CALM and make GOOD choices. We are in this together people, no one is excused from this situation. So with that……..

Here is what I know………….. Be Calm and Make Good Choices!

Keep tossing the spaghetti on the wall, something will stick sooner or later.

Regina Phalange

Have you ever found yourself working soooooo smart and you feel like it’s all for nothing, beating your head against the wall and for what? Well sooner or later something will stick. Faith plays a lot into the hope we have for ourselves and what we need to fill our cups. No matter what it is for, self-worth, family, friends, career, money, whatever it is for, we need to continue to find focus and hope for the best and keep powering through.

Here is what I know…. Never say can’t, because you always can, just try and then try again. Surprises that the universe brings us are there we just have to believe!

The struggle is so real…

Regina Phalange

The struggle is so real…… Here we go….. As we hope for real in our lives, sometimes the real is life and all that comes with it. Some good, some not so good, some that is completely unexpected. Enter the struggle with it all. We think life shouldn’t be so challenging, things shouldn’t be so hard, walking our path will have it’s struggles.

However when they are unexpected it takes a toll on our spirits, and can spin it in a way you didn’t think it might. Because we are suppose to be strong, independent, on track, positive, focused. Yet that unexpected takes over and your emotions are just flooded with more then you can handle.

A good friend of mine shared with me his struggles. As he shared what was going on with his life, his marriage, his children, his work, I could see he is on the brink of a break through from the negative. But still struggling with how things fell apart, where and when it happened. Yes he deserves answers. But what I shared with him was so simple and put a smile on his face. I said to him to stop wondering the why’s of it all and start focusing on the change within. Look deep into himself, see the good, the bad and the ugly and find the change. It’s there you just have to have a little faith in yourself.

He was grateful for the “what I know” soap box, and told me you are right, every little thing is going to be alright….

Here is what I know… Take comfort in you… What you are capable of, what your abilities will allow you to do and where your spirit, your mind and your heart can take you! Just “Be Still” it will happen…..You will see….

It’s been awhile.

Regina Phalange

It’s been a long while actually. I took some time to work on a rather large project, involving people (some way to big for their britches), music, partners, sponsors, food, drinks and an amazing day!

The after math is what has hit me in more ways then one, two, three and so on. When you work with someone, there is a level of respect you want, as should they. There is follow through, on whatever your role your part may be. There is communication that is required. There is professionalism that is expected. During the after math so much of the lack there of comes out of the woodwork. We discover that when it’s to good to be true or when someone seems like they are slinging BS (even though they may have some clout) most likely they are full of it!

Knowing all that came with this journey, I have discovered I most certainly can this! I have it in me to learn, to listen, to understand, to take the next steps in the journey. I had my moment… I allowed myself that…And most likely I will have many more…… I will allow myself those moments.. I need to in order to work through what my spirit, emotions, mind and heart tells me!

So here is what I know.. Continue to Believe… Never say can’t…Because you always can….Just try!

Breakups……..

Regina Phalange
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Break Ups…. Weather they be with a boyfriend or girlfriend or just a friend are never easy. After it happens you sit, you ponder in it…..and ponder in it…..and ponder in it. Why? Because you are human, and have emotions that we can’t always control. Do you think what could I have done differently? Do you think boy I should have seen that coming? Do you think what is it I did wrong? Do you think maybe it’s for the best. Do you think eventually they are going to be found out and will be called out on their  BS.
Once you get past the thinking and are able to have clear vision and it doesn’t linger in the back of your mind will they be back?


A good friend of mine shared with me recently a break up that she went through. Wasn’t even really a break up. It was more of a expression of honesty that led to her friend completely ignoring her ghosting her more or less.  Effective communication is so important and any and all relationships. It’s not always going to be good it’s not always going to be bad. It’s not always going to be bells and whistles. Just simply have regards for the other person’s emotions.


Unfortunately my friend thought  she had effective communication was happening. Honesty keeping things real, is exactly what both of these people boasted about. It’s what made their relationship real. At least that what she thought. Then one day my friend was sucker punched. So to speak. She discovered something about her friend….that they clearly they had been lying for some time. They weren’t honest, they weren’t open and they took the vulnerability my friend was able to share and sucker punched her.


Now fortunately my friend is strong enough to take that and say no more. What’s most interesting is that when she revealed complete and utter honesty She had discovered after that that this person had been lying. That most likely they had been lying for some time The good thing is  My friend did not reach back out to this so called friend to lay it on the line. She decided it wasn’t worth the time the energy or the efforts.


What she did do was mark her calendar.  She marked her calendar because the pattern of behavior of this friend like so many others is that they’ll be back.  Thinking that their secret is hidden deep and because time will have pasted and no one will know the wiser. When and if this so called friend reaches back out to her in a few months she will take the opportunity meet with them and effectively communicate the lies that she discovered.
What will this do for her. It will give her the satisfaction of having complete, utter clear vision and closure.

Here is what I know…If you cannot be honest with somebody keep your mouth shut. Leave that person and anyone else be. Don’t spout about wanting complete honesty when you can’t be honest yourself..
Because liars always are found out…