Tag: Judgement

Foolish thinking……Do we fool ourselves?

Regina Phalange

Into hoping it’s more then what it is? Perhaps we do  just that. Fool ourselves into thinking something is more then what it really is. Why do we do this? Could it be simply it’s what our heart wants, and we can’t help but hope the other is sensing, feeling the exact same way? Could it be that we are to fearful of the outcome if we do come right out and ask…. Is this more to this then what is on the surface? Could it be that we finally want, not that we need it, but want something more and are unsure how to approach the subject with said other?

In whatever type of relationship you are having, it’s really important to keep it real, keep it real, and keep it real! So why are we afraid to share, ask and expect a simple real answer? Unfortunately in this day and age it’s a number of reasons. You have a 50/50 chance that the other is on the same page that you are on. You have the chance that the other is not seeking anything more then what it, sex, so called friendship, blah, blah blah. You have a chance that once you open up to the other, they aren’t quite where you are at, but are open to the idea of it all. With any of those, you have a chance of emotions coming to surface and you need to find away to manage them.

I’m pretty sure we all read into what is put in front of us in some way shape or form. Does this make us Foolish?  We take what people tell us, and consider it honesty,  being open, being adult. Yet there are times, that is is all pulled away from us, because of misrepresentation . This of course comes on many levels.  We wonder why some are jaded. We wonder why some hold so much in and burst at the flames when they can’t take it in anymore.  We wonder how someone can do this to each other. When in reality isn’t all we want in the long run is to be heard, to be respected, to be ourselves, to not feel judgement, to always be able to keep it real?

Here is what I know…….

I have mentioned this a few times before, just keep it real.

When you keep it real with yourself, you keep it real with everyone around you. We are better humans by keeping it real.

Remember growing up, what you were taught… Simple things… It doesn’t have to difficult. KISS (Keep it simple silly)…  Be nice to each other. Use your manners. Say please and thank you. Be gracious and understanding, listen, don’t just hear what someone is saying, listen to them. You might learn more then you realize if you just listen.

So what I know………. is Foolish thinking is OK…. Just know what is real and what is not. Foolish thinking is your clouded mind pondering the wonder that is your moment, with or without someone, it’s moments we ponder and ponder hard about. Doesn’t make us Foolish……It makes us more aware….

 

 

Keep putting yourself out there…….

Regina Phalange

Don’t stop. No matter what scenario you are in, feel, express, share, mostly Live….. Never stop……

Put yourself out there. It’s part of what we need to do, to feel as humans. That no matter who, where, when we share it with. We at the very least can and NEED to share. NO one should judge us otherwise.  Do not settle in life.. Sometimes we find ourselves in a predicament as we did once upon a time ago. And fear what our peers think of us. It’s human  nature to want to share with someone what we are going through. And it not be about drama, but it is about life…LIVING….. What we are as individuals,………………… go through as humans….LIFE..LIVING…. it’s not drama.. See it for what it is… LIFE…..LIVING…

We have to believe in ourselves on many levels to see our best potential. What saddens me most, is when I see friends now, those of the past, potential good friends in the future, is that there is judgement…always….never……ending…judgement. How about we all just learn a better way of being still…Letting ourselves believe what you feel inside…If you just believe…. You to can find what truly feels good….. Who you are…And what and WHO you want to be.

Here is what I know…….Don’t loose site of who you are… For anyone…ever….. You have always been liked. You will….Always will be. Liked..

… Never forget that……

 

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Are Men like Cats…?…

Regina Phalange

123_1-3Men and cats…………………Are they more like them if we really think about it…

They only come around when they need a pet. Or when they need attention. Or when it’s on their time. They expect so much in a short period of time so their motors get running so loud it becomes annoying…… Without any regards to our own motors….  Come on we have them to and they need petting, attending and time as well…

What is that all about?

Now I am sure in the same sense men will say well women are like……. Help me out here, we are like…….. (Fill in the blank)_______________________.
And why do you feel we are like this? Regina’s inquiring mind wants to know! Help me help others understand this…….

Back to my point…..

Why is that the coming about is when it’s convenient for him in the case to those who are single? Could be a few things. Maybe some have misrepresented themselves. Perhaps we give them a short show of what we know they like. Then after we have them in our season, that show gets canceled and we still expect the same outcome. Or is it simply they are afraid?

So let’s see misrepresenting yourself, here’s a hint, STOP DOING THAT!! You are only going to be found out in the long run. Both men and women do this, I can never understand why someone would want to do this to themselves. All it does is lead someone down a path of wanting to run the minute they meet you. Be yourself, find the inner you and stick with. Don’t stray from it, it’s who you are! Else you will find yourself very much alone and wonder what you are doing wrong. At the end of the day the only person you have to answer to is yourself. Stop right now, go to the closet mirror and look deep into your eyes. Clearly.. Do you like what you see, do you like how you feel? If not, take a good long look and find out why…… You’ll thank me…

Next the short show. We find out what someone likes, enjoys, even a fantasy.. then we run with it… Once we have them in our web, some feel there is no need for the show. Really? What is wrong with people, if you are going to put on a show, turn on the TV, and watch the reruns…. The show we present ourselves in to those around us is one we live with everyday. Don’t be afraid to have it on all the time! Seriously if you like, love, and enjoy who you are, then your show should be turned on ALWAYS!  Sometimes the episode isn’t the best, that is simply because well we are human and life happens. And that’s OK.. HOWEVER with the right participants the show can be uplifted to something outside the crappy episode.

Being afraid… aren’t we all? It’s an emotion that some challenge themselves against. Stop doing that. It’s OK to be afraid, scared, what ever you want to call it. It’s part of being human. Here is what I know, some have such a hard time opening up, expressing themselves, effectively communicating what they want to say. I have fallen short in the past on this. The key is to learn from it. It’s OK to let others know how you feel, what bothers you about something they might have said, or have done. It’s OK to tell someone (men) they have great socks (yes Regina likes a man in nice happy socks). or tell a women how great she looks. Or let someone know, that you don’t like how they handled a situation they might have been a part of.
Why do we worry so much about judgement? We answer to ourselves, no one else. Yet we find ourselves in such a judgmental world. Be OK with what you believe in, stop worrying about what others think. At the end of the day you answer only to you!

Ok back to… Are Men Like Cats? Sometimes.. No, not always, just sometimes… When they come put their head in your lap they want to be there, even for a short period of time. When they nussle you, they want to be there, even for a short period of time. When they follow you around, they want to be there, even for a short period of time. Isn’t some time better then no time at all? Absolutely.

And so here is what I  know…..

Keep it real, always, keep it real…….

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P.S. Tell what you think Women are like? And why, I can’t wait to read what might be thought of out there. Now all I ask is to be gracious.. No need to bash and bad mouth…. Just keep it real….