Category: Age

Curiosity….Gets the best of us….

Regina Phalange

Curiosity…….. Well you know what happens with that…right? If you don’t then it hasn’t gotten to the cat in your life. Sometimes when we decide as a parent to be curious. We come upon something of our child/ren’s………and we take a moment to learn it……understand it……read it……..put ourselves in what they have experienced. (our child/ren is what I am talking about here).  You can feel yourself walking in the shoes they are walking in right now. With out all the gaga as a parent….showing it off to all the world to see….. It’s a moment where you decide as a parent to simply keep it to yourself. It’s worthy of your heart holding, that expressed moment your child shared, just not with you.


Here is what I know………. Give your children the Room to express themselves. In one way shape or form. When you as a parent stumble upon, their moment…..it let it take your breath away and Marvel in the wisdom that they have discovered. Listen to the love they are sharing. Hear how it makes them feel. Have hope that they will learn, understand and know right from wrong.  And mostly to have faith that what they feel is real…….

For my sweet girl………………Sofia

Are people really still doing this?

Regina Phalange

One would think that when we hit a certain age, game playing, b.s.’ing, scammers, “those people” would get a clue, that at a certain age most of us see right through all of that. Why do some people still feel this type of behavior is OK? Why do some people feel it’s OK to toy with others emotions? Why do they feel it’s OK? It’s just not!

When someone opens their emotions, their heart and their soul to someone, they do so with the intention that it will go down a path they are both looking for. And just when you think finally on the same page, Nope just kidding they are not even in the same book. One lead the other with hopes, dreams, seeking someone to love them and they wanted to love someone back. Taking a verbal fairy-tale walk so to speak, the wow this all sounds to good to be true. First rule of thumb if it seems like this, then guess what? It most likely is to good to be true. We can only really appreciate being true to ourselves first. It’s the only way you can be good for others. If you don’t get that, then you truly don’t appreciate what life has to offer you.

Here is what I know…. When someone floats in and out of your life, take that as a sign to let them go. In and out of your life, not just staying in your life, but floating out of your life over and over again. For whatever the reason may be, your better with them out of your life then in.

Soar….Dream….Believe..

Regina Phalange

In the midst of the sadness, negativity and the unknown today 2 America Astronauts raced through the skies on a journey, that we all get to watch right along with them. Rather than express what this means to the United States. I’d like to share what today’s launch meant to me.

Not only did Sofia and I enjoy the wonder that is Mark Rober I was able to see my small tall mini me watch a dream of hers, the Falcon 9 launch safely into space from American soil. One day she would like to be a part of these organizations NASA 360 SpaceX

Her hope is to build these spaceships, to be one who will sore through space one day. Making a difference, being proud of where she came from. What she’s learned. The drive and the spirit to want to know and understand more SpaceX NASA – National Aeronautics and Space Administration this young lady wants to make an impact, and difference in our world even if its out there somewhere in space.

And although she is missing so much ( her FIRST Robotics Team 93: N.E.W. Apple Corps and friends).as so many of our future generation are. She didn’t get to miss this amazing moment today in American history. I didn’t miss it either. Watching Sofia’s gaze as Falcon 9 launched towards the skies was pure Joy.

Here is what I know….
Let’s not forget where we are, where we came from and mostly where we can go. The journey can be infinate. Don’t miss the opportunity..

https://www.google.com/…/science/spacex-launch-nasa.amp.html

Is 80% right?

Regina Phalange

I recently had a conversation with one of my guy friends at the gym. Matt’s perspective on dating is interesting. He has shared a few of his stories in the world of dating from his point of view. He’s a lay it out as he sees it kinda of guy. To concerned once upon a time ago what others thought about him, trying to impress women only to discover, he wasn’t impressed. He was to a point in his life with dating that he was just over it. To many games, to many not confident enough in themselves. To many full of drama, to many who didn’t have goals. Just to many that shouldn’t be out there dating, until they fixed themselves. That’s when Matt decided to just that for himself. He focused more on himself first, not his kids. He discovered the only way he could be good for his his kids, was to be good to himself first. He had to be the priority, not his kids. Once he found acceptance with himself and felt himself change in a way that was comfortable for him, he liked who he discovered. Truly a better him

He has since found love again and is engaged. He tells me 80% of men don’t approach women. We are to scared, nervous, get anxiety about it, are afraid of rejection, don’t want to show their vulnerability. What ever that is, 80% of men just don’t approach women. Interesting perspective, so at least there is 20% who do approach women, right? Of course, those men who are confident, what % of them are real? Not just full of themselves. I suppose we could put women into this category, however what would the % be? Today women are more straight forward. The % may be different…….just a bit. Regardless this leaves me in wonder, will those who are single, remain single because of this?

Here is what I know………

If you want to approach someone, just do it. After all…………………………….. their opinion about you is none of your business.

Damned if we do, Damned if we don’t….

Regina Phalange

Why is it when we step into it again (dating, seeking a partner), we are damned if we do, and damned if we don’t? We find ourselves riddled with curiosity of where someone’s mind set is. We want what we want, we feel what we need, we know what’s important to ourselves. Life is challenging enough, let alone seeking our mate…….partner in crime……..our special someone, love….. Why is this such a challenge?

It comes right down to timing… As we grow into our age’s we tend to settle into what we know, our routine, our habits, the what we know of our  lives. For those who have been single get into this, and when someone we are interested in steps into the light. We try and see how we can make their routine, their habits, their what they know’s work with ours. Not as easy as one would think. Sure we should give, take, and of course that wonderful word called compromise. That word that life is really all about, in order for us to make sense of our surroundings, we have to  find that compromise, so life isn’t full of drama.

What is frustrating mostly at times about all this is when we cross paths with someone that we feel is our match. We start to try them on.  Understanding where they are coming from. So we ask questions, we ponder many things about them, but not as to be needy, stalker like, or a crazy person. Simply we want to know them. We find in discovery of it all that 1 thing may, or may not hold them back. Yet if this 1 thing holds them back from moving forward, were they really in it to win it? Even though they share, they find time for you, they show action. There is the chemistry, there is the connection, there is the possibly of more…Yet this 1 thing makes them decide they just can’t be a part of your like mindedness. they shut the door. Yet this 1 thing that the other is willing to discuss, talk about, find compromise in, but the other is sound on their decision. What do we do, reach out, find hope, let go?

Here is what I know…,

Keep putting yourself out there, YOU are worth it…. They may or may not come back..If they don’t you know it wasn’t meant to be.

If they do, you have to simply be still. You have to hear them, they have to hear you, and both needs to listen with their heart.

And perhaps things will be more clear.

 

49…………It’s inevitable…. It’s just a number…..

Regina Phalange

As I come upon another Birthday, I reflect on life, people, what not.

It’s just a number…  When people ask me my age I ask them to tell me how young they think I am. I get this look from them like oh no I won’t guess, I don’t want to insult you. Well then why did you ask? Most guess between 38-42, I’m grateful for this compliment it makes me smile all over and graciously say thank you.

When I tell them it’s just a number, and my number this year is 49, they gasp and respond in a WOW manner. I also get the you don’t look 49  or act like a 49 year old comment. How do 49 year old’s act these days? Maybe I need to pay better attention to the 49 year old’s that surround me just to see if I am any different. Now that’s just silly, why would I want to compare myself to anyone but me? I’m not going to change me to fit in. I never have, and I never will.
I simply say it’s just a number, which doesn’t define me, I define me…

So here is what I know….. age is a number, don’t define yourself by it… define yourself as you, who you are, who you want to be, who you need to be. Sometimes it might be out of the scope of your norm, and that is OK, that’s the best part about it. Don’t step outside of the box, go around the corner and see what awaits you. You never know what may come your way…..

 

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