Category: Calm

Curiosity….Gets the best of us….

Regina Phalange

Curiosity…….. Well you know what happens with that…right? If you don’t then it hasn’t gotten to the cat in your life. Sometimes when we decide as a parent to be curious. We come upon something of our child/ren’s………and we take a moment to learn it……understand it……read it……..put ourselves in what they have experienced. (our child/ren is what I am talking about here).  You can feel yourself walking in the shoes they are walking in right now. With out all the gaga as a parent….showing it off to all the world to see….. It’s a moment where you decide as a parent to simply keep it to yourself. It’s worthy of your heart holding, that expressed moment your child shared, just not with you.


Here is what I know………. Give your children the Room to express themselves. In one way shape or form. When you as a parent stumble upon, their moment…..it let it take your breath away and Marvel in the wisdom that they have discovered. Listen to the love they are sharing. Hear how it makes them feel. Have hope that they will learn, understand and know right from wrong.  And mostly to have faith that what they feel is real…….

For my sweet girl………………Sofia

What is happening?

Regina Phalange

What a time we live in! It’s like a movie playing out right in front of us. Some like the story line, some hate it, and others don’t care enough. To each their own, yes, keep in mind though if you don’t care enough, then perhaps keeping quite is the best method to the madness.

Here is what I know….. There is to much hate in the world and not enough love. But there is HOPE, let’s all find a way to Be Still… and continue to have HOPE!

Soar….Dream….Believe..

Regina Phalange

In the midst of the sadness, negativity and the unknown today 2 America Astronauts raced through the skies on a journey, that we all get to watch right along with them. Rather than express what this means to the United States. I’d like to share what today’s launch meant to me.

Not only did Sofia and I enjoy the wonder that is Mark Rober I was able to see my small tall mini me watch a dream of hers, the Falcon 9 launch safely into space from American soil. One day she would like to be a part of these organizations NASA 360 SpaceX

Her hope is to build these spaceships, to be one who will sore through space one day. Making a difference, being proud of where she came from. What she’s learned. The drive and the spirit to want to know and understand more SpaceX NASA – National Aeronautics and Space Administration this young lady wants to make an impact, and difference in our world even if its out there somewhere in space.

And although she is missing so much ( her FIRST Robotics Team 93: N.E.W. Apple Corps and friends).as so many of our future generation are. She didn’t get to miss this amazing moment today in American history. I didn’t miss it either. Watching Sofia’s gaze as Falcon 9 launched towards the skies was pure Joy.

Here is what I know….
Let’s not forget where we are, where we came from and mostly where we can go. The journey can be infinate. Don’t miss the opportunity..

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Are you calm? Are you making good choices?

Regina Phalange

It’s a really simple question. In these times we need to be. We need to educate, advocate, understand, your surroundings, be positive, do what is right! Be calm and make good choices!

If you can find a away to make someone’s day, safely, then do it! We all . need a reach out in these times! We have to be there for each other more then ever. Although this to shall pass, take a moment to do a simple action, reach out by checking in on your family, your community members. Simply make a phone call, a video message/chat, a text message, an email, sidewalk chalk messages, simple actions like this show you care. Be kind, treat people with kindness, each of us needs a little more of this.

Here is what I know….. Embrace your surroundings, be positive and share that with all of those around you, in a safe way! Simple actions, speak louder then words. Be safe friends, be calm, make good choices, wash your hands and often. We will power through!

Keep tossing the spaghetti on the wall, something will stick sooner or later.

Regina Phalange

Have you ever found yourself working soooooo smart and you feel like it’s all for nothing, beating your head against the wall and for what? Well sooner or later something will stick. Faith plays a lot into the hope we have for ourselves and what we need to fill our cups. No matter what it is for, self-worth, family, friends, career, money, whatever it is for, we need to continue to find focus and hope for the best and keep powering through.

Here is what I know…. Never say can’t, because you always can, just try and then try again. Surprises that the universe brings us are there we just have to believe!

The struggle is so real…

Regina Phalange

The struggle is so real…… Here we go….. As we hope for real in our lives, sometimes the real is life and all that comes with it. Some good, some not so good, some that is completely unexpected. Enter the struggle with it all. We think life shouldn’t be so challenging, things shouldn’t be so hard, walking our path will have it’s struggles.

However when they are unexpected it takes a toll on our spirits, and can spin it in a way you didn’t think it might. Because we are suppose to be strong, independent, on track, positive, focused. Yet that unexpected takes over and your emotions are just flooded with more then you can handle.

A good friend of mine shared with me his struggles. As he shared what was going on with his life, his marriage, his children, his work, I could see he is on the brink of a break through from the negative. But still struggling with how things fell apart, where and when it happened. Yes he deserves answers. But what I shared with him was so simple and put a smile on his face. I said to him to stop wondering the why’s of it all and start focusing on the change within. Look deep into himself, see the good, the bad and the ugly and find the change. It’s there you just have to have a little faith in yourself.

He was grateful for the “what I know” soap box, and told me you are right, every little thing is going to be alright….

Here is what I know… Take comfort in you… What you are capable of, what your abilities will allow you to do and where your spirit, your mind and your heart can take you! Just “Be Still” it will happen…..You will see….

It’s been awhile.

Regina Phalange

It’s been a long while actually. I took some time to work on a rather large project, involving people (some way to big for their britches), music, partners, sponsors, food, drinks and an amazing day!

The after math is what has hit me in more ways then one, two, three and so on. When you work with someone, there is a level of respect you want, as should they. There is follow through, on whatever your role your part may be. There is communication that is required. There is professionalism that is expected. During the after math so much of the lack there of comes out of the woodwork. We discover that when it’s to good to be true or when someone seems like they are slinging BS (even though they may have some clout) most likely they are full of it!

Knowing all that came with this journey, I have discovered I most certainly can this! I have it in me to learn, to listen, to understand, to take the next steps in the journey. I had my moment… I allowed myself that…And most likely I will have many more…… I will allow myself those moments.. I need to in order to work through what my spirit, emotions, mind and heart tells me!

So here is what I know.. Continue to Believe… Never say can’t…Because you always can….Just try!

Sometimes you just have to be still…….

Regina Phalange

This can really relate to anything in general. But for this therapy session it’s about a boy and a girl…..

Recently someone shared their be still moment…..about their relationship…….with me.

Online dating……. Yes it starts there.

One day a girl made the first move. Isn’t that what we are suppose to do if we find ourselves doing the on-line dating thing? So this girl came across this boy’s profile. She like his photo and things he likes to do  from his online dating profile. She decided to reach out.. She did not expect him to respond, and low behold he did. Immediately they had an online connection.  They both felt it, most of us have been there, we have at the very least experienced this. So you all know what I am talking about. If not, my gwad get out from under that ROCK so you can experience already.  And so…..  It quickly went to texting. Which some would say don’t jump into texting right away. aaaaaaa why would that be?  It would be like having that great connection with someone you bump into at the market, or a department store, even a coffee shop. If it makes sense to pass on your card, then so be it. So moving the interview along seems to be the next step.

Ok…so…anyrate…………… With in a matter of maybe 30 minutes, it moved right to actual voice conversation. BAM a boy……a girl…….who actually wants to talk on the phone! Yes! With their wondering eyes what did they hear.. Chemistry, a connection, who has time to waste? We are after all not just older.. we are wiser.. At this stage in the game of life, we should have some idea of what in a person makes us tick.  What we like and what we don’t like. So if it feels right, then don’t just put your toes in the water, put the entire foot. And see where the steps take you.  Of course be guarded and cautions and always keep it real..

Time spent with one another a variety of ways. Today’s technology has given us that! Skype, Texting, phone to phone, even more ways to communicate then just being distant with a text.  Respectful effective communication. This people………..is something that we all know doesn’t come around that often. So the idea of exploring it with a matter of this and a matter of that, to throw a spin in it, makes each of these people want to know the other better. They both move to take the next steps.

Their “Be Still” moment came soon after they meeting, and spending time together.  One had to pull away..Not because of the other.  But because LIFE happens and sometimes it’s A LOT of Life in a short period of time. Some can manage it pretty well. Some aren’t sure where to even begin. Some are all over the place about it. So when one of you has to be still in the relationship, and you know it, then do it……Be Still.. Let the Storm, the Tsunami, whatever you want to call Life at that time, just walk through the steps.  We are only Human, and we will make mistakes on how we handle Life and a relationship at the same time. It is after all a Life of itself. One of the two had to pull away… Leaving the other left to practice Being Still!  This isn’t the easiest part of the relationship. Why is that? It’s because we may be the type that wants to help fix it… Remember this, YOU CAN’T!! So stop trying… Just share what you know… Even if someone asks you what you think? Don’t be their therapist…. Just keep what you know, simple… SIMPLE….SIMPLE….

Giving each other a time out was what was needed. Not pushing away, just stepping back and letting the other have their time out. And when it was time, the other knew when to reach out.  When they were able to talk, things were aired out about the happenings in “LIFE”. It was something that just needed to be communicated and listened to. At this stage in the game of Life we should all be much wiser. Take that time out and just “Be Still”.  By doing this they were able to move to the next step in their relationship, an even better understanding where the other is in their game of “LIFE”

So here is what I know….

We all have many lives we live through every single day. Our life with ourselves, our children, our family, our friends, our work, our home, and through all that……..Life………..sometimes it becomes overwhelming and we need to just simply practice the art of Being Still….. When you can do that, you then know you can “Be Still” when LIFE happens…