I have both female and male friends that come and share with me their taunts of life… Dating, men, women, their ups and downs with friendships, breakups with friends, their madness of home life, their children (how they are growing up too fast and what should they do), their jobs/careers….and so on…
As if I have all the answers. As if Regina has ALL the answers….Who does? None of us do.
Simple… It’s what we know. Simple as that.
Here is what I know…..
I don’t give advice, I don’t give opinions, it’s not my place. Even when asked.
Simply put, Here is what I know…..
I’m just someone who has been through what we all have been through.
Let’s start with dating… Because Regina is such an expert.. Not really..
Here is what I know…
We have all experienced the wonderful world of dating. Not just with those we may find intrigue with. But with our friends also, we date our friends. Yes we date our friends, we will get to this eventually.
Dating in general yea we all know it’s NO FUN. Especially as we get into out late 30’s, 40’s even in our 50’s. Challenging is an understatement.
None of which should be so difficult.
“And here we are”….
What’s interesting is I find myself here, again… 24 of the 49 years of my life I was with 2 men. Both of whom I lost myself life to. I was me for awhile, and then ta da I fell into their world, and making sure all was well in it. Even at the darkest moments, because I didn’t want to loose them. Unfortunately I lost the most important part……. me, myself, and I.
I was to busy making sure they were happy, and forgot about the happy part of me, myself and I. The only true way to be good for anyone, is to be good for yourself. With that, after the second long term relationship ended I vowed to me, myself and I will never allow myself to fall into that again.
Simple…. Now read this, think about it, don’t judge.. Put yourself there.. REALLY..
It is all about me (it’s all about you!!!!), as it should be. With this, I (You) can find the goodness I (You) can contribute onto others with-in me (You) first. Hence being good for myself, before I can be good for others.
How do I do that Regina!!!??!!! OK I’m just going to tell you again..
Here is what I know….
Effective communication…It may appear I am an effective communicator…. However…… Yes I fell short in this area… Why… well because again I didn’t want to loose what I thought was an amazing relationship. Again the only thing I lost, was me, myself and I.
Don’t be afraid to communicate how you feel. Shutting yourself out to this only leads to shutting yourself out to being who you are! Human! Someone with emotions, understanding, someone who wants..needs… a something, a someone, or simply to just be still with me, myself, and I.
I mean Isn’t that who that person fell for in the first place. Never lose that about yourself, it will be your loose, no one else’s.
Simply put….
This is what I know!!!!
