Isn’t it amazing how easy it is to let go? That is if you are strong enough to do so. Are you? Can you let go……..
Recently a friend shared her moment of letting go. Only to discover when she was ready to step off the ledge, and land softly. The unexpected happened. He came back within hours of her letting go of him, the idea of him, telling him………she was letting him go. What she discovered was that he can’t seem to get past the idea of her. Here is what she did.
She took time to write out exactly what she needed to tell him. She kept it very real, very honest, and on point.
She knew it was time to tell the person she had been seeing here and there how she felt and that things had changed for her. She knew it would be hard, and so writing it out was her way of making sure she got her point across. Expressing how she knew what it was in the beginning, but now over time how it felt different. She knew she had developed feelings for this person. She knew she no longer wanted to be just friends.. She simply stated she wanted more…eventually……… she wasn’t sure if more even meant with him. But the idea was that she was and is ready for more in her life. She has no drama, she is stable in her career, the path her life is heading is clear and she is ready to welcome someone in it. To share things with, to do things with, to just be with. More so then just a friend. And so she shared with this person exactly how she felt, knowing she may never hear from them again,….. She expressed to them she was OK with that outcome. She knew she needed to be. This way, it would allow her to let go….. She opened up her window and let her soul fly free.
When she sent this, she took a deep breath, stepped off the ledge and landed softly. What happened next came much to her surprise….
This person contacted her right away the next day. She was quite taken aback by it. This person asked her if she was breaking up with them? She didn’t realize they had anything to break up from. This person asked her if she needed them to step up, be there more often, yada yada and yada. Of course she told them, and what about what she had sent did they not understand? Games and BS is something she (or any of us) has time for. He asked her weeks prior not to give up on him, that she was the only one he wanted to be with. That he hasn’t been with anyone else. He asked her what she missed about him.. Comments and questions that he put out there. She had shared with him what she was feeling, but knew she needed to share more, hence her letting go. This was why she needed to put this out there. If this person could step up, and actually follow through, if this person would just simply give into trusting what he knows he feels. He may very well find that she could be just what he has been seeking the entire time. When he came around he told her yes, I am up for that, I will step up. I can commit to more time, I can commit to following through. You are who I want to be with……..
yea no……………………..to good to be true…
Unfortunately this didn’t last… A plan was in place and guess what…..he failed, under his own terms. So she made it clear she knows his playing field, she told him what her playing field is. She is still about that, accepts it. He just can’t find acceptance in her truth. Which in turn makes it all the more challenging for her. She told him your just not ready for me in your life. When you can find acceptance in this, you know where to find me. With that being said it doesn’t mean she would still be available. So she let him ago, again, she gave him an out. At this point thinking now she’d really not hear from him. WRONG he contacted her again. I’m like did this person even read what you sent him? Does he think just because he is dangling himself in front of you that you’ll rethink what you expressed. CLEARLY that is exactly what he is thinking. So with that she changed her approach and found strength to lay it right there on the line a 3rd and last time and asked him to please not contact her anymore.
He has some learning to do, he has some growing to do, he has to find it within himself to accept that his past is that, his past. (she knows he has had a bad experience with commitment and trust). He needs to stop allowing it to hold people at bay. A great opportunity is right in front of him and he knows it. If he didn’t, well he wouldn’t keep coming back. She is the real deal, perhaps he is scared and isn’t ready for something real. Perhaps this is why he continues to reach out to her but yet keep her at arms length because he is scared of the possibility. Only he knows……
All she can do, is power through, and be still…….
So here is what I know….. For my dear friend I told her, letting go is hard….. Being still about it is harder.. Find the strength to let it go…..When you can do this, you will be able to open up your window and let your soul fly free.
