Interesting Hallmark…

Don’t you feel sometimes you are living and breathing a Hallmark movie? ……….Come on….. you know you have at one time or another. Being the worst Hallmark Movie ever. Yet you got through it.

A few friends of mine shared their Hallmarks with me. A couple of them single, a couple of them married…………both being in very different places in their lives as far as relationships……….wanting one……..and/or……… staying as far away as possible from it as the other could. And another friends relationship is on steady waters……….
Both in need of education of needs and wants………
Leaving dismay, questions, life, love in a little bit of a storm AKA
Their Season and Reason.

None of this is rocket science my friends. It’s simple words of expression, you know Communication….effective Communication!

Being single myself I completely understand all of this! Being in these seasons in my life and trying to figure out what to do. Will it make sense if I do it this way, or better that way? What if there is judgement? Will others think it’s drama? With all this turmoil of thought………….why would anyone want such a Hallmark? Why……..because we are human, we are meant to be with someone. It’s really OK to admit this. It’s best to actually communicate this concept. The challenge here, is the one you want to communicate with, are they open to it? Most are not, for fear of hearing the honest truth. Most just can’t handle the truth because it means looking in the mirror. Finding themselves in a space of their life they might not be to pleased with and have never figured out how to manage it….so it’s less painful.

The downside is most just don’t know how to/or understand how to communicate effectively. They’ve most likely never been given such an opportunity………………their shining moment to do just that………..effectively communicate!
So they judge….they question…..they aren’t honest……….open………….or even true to themselves. Those individuals are those who loose themselves in a cloud running in circles only seeing the same result. Because they are challenged with changing this cycle…………………….they will continue to run in the same circles only seeing the same results………..

Here is what I know…..
Communication is KEY in any and all relationships. Stop thinking otherwise. Even if it hurts you, angers you, makes you want to pull the hair out of your head or gives you great feelings of joy, laughter, love….. It is the key to magic that lies ahead. You just have to try……and try again……..and maybe some more…..

Just try……. You’ll feel better knowing that you did. Maybe not right off the bat…….but you will.


Oh tis the Holidays!

The Holiday’s have come and gone.

I took a step back to engage all the Holidays had to offer. Family, friends, the spirit of the season, it swept me away. And for the first time in many, many years I found this past Holiday and the end of my year one of the best I have ever encountered. Being able to take in what is around me and seeing things for what they are, not what people think they should be. Has been quite refreshing to say the least.  I decided to allow things to just happen and not question it, not wonder about it, mostly not what if it!

Here is what I know……..

The Holiday’s can truly take a toll on us, only if we let it. Why not just sit back, and take it all in.

What I will and can do, is keep the amazing moments of Joy close to my heart. I will cherish them forever!

Happy New Year reader’s , Regina is back.

 

 


The Wonder of it All!

The Wonder of it All………..

People’s minds, thought process, way of being…. I’m always taking that in. Not so much wondering, just pondering these things. What makes us tick? What makes us think the way we think and why? Is it those who surround us? Is it where we are at the moment? Is is simply our mindset and that is who we are?

Let me explain, recently a good friend of mine found herself challenged with a rage of emotions, ups, downs, a basic shit storm in her life (career, friends, partner, children, an ex, etc). What she pondered the most from it all was that she doesn’t like being alone, and is afraid that is where she is going to end up. Alone.
Aren’t we all afraid of that? Of course, but we can’t let that hinder the possibly of  what lies ahead for us. She is someone who needs to have someone in her life, she doesn’t want it, she needs it. Now we all know our needs and our wants, or do we? Sometimes our judgement gets clouded because of something that happens in our life, bam we are off the track. Some are able to get back on the track. Others just can’t muster the ability to jump back on, it’s to challenging, it’s to difficult, it’s to much for them to handle. Before they know it, their entire life is a shit storm with no end in site, no light at the end of the tunnel. Lost…….alone…..afraid………….

Prioritize, make a list, figure out what you can do now… What do you have control of…… Surprisingly more then we think we do. We just have to believe in ourselves….

I want to at times take her little shoulders and shake her just a little, to see if anything will reconnect again. However I know the best thing for her, is for her to figure it out herself. All I can do is tell her what I know…

So here is what I know… we have to take the challenges, the ups, the downs, the shit storms, that present themselves in our lives and run with them.  Ride the wave, none of us has a crystal ball, we cannot see into future. We can only hope, and take every moment given to us and ride the wave it has become. Stop being afraid of the storm, look it right in the face, don’t let it shake you down. You will come out of it brighter then you can imagine!

 

 

 

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When it rains it pours……

When it rains, it pours…Sometimes it comes in droves..Overwhelming us with emotions that some of us aren’t sure how to handle. This could be with just about anything in our lives… Lets talk about Men, Women, Friends, Lovers, Careers, People…

Friends……… People…….Careers……………If we know what we know, why then do others question it? Why then do people feel the need to be in other’s business. if it doesn’t directly relate to you, why do we have to question it and go inside out of ourselves about it. Getting worked up about it, and putting it out there into the universe only leaves you frustrated, upset, angry and beside yourself. Why would you want to do that to………….. yourself?  I believe I have written this before, the only person you have to answer to at the end of the day is yourself. Stay our of other’s business, regardless of your play in it. Leave it to those who are directly involved and step away.  You’ll thank yourself in the long run. You personally don’t need the drama…..

Why does it have to be so complicated? With…….Men…..Women….People……..Friends……Perhaps because we have a connection directly with that person/or people.  Whatever the case may be, when it rains it pours….What do you do about it? When people (who become friends) come into our lives and then poof they disappear, they are gone…We ask ourselves what happened? What did I do wrong? Why is there so much noise with it? I ask why does it matter? Why worry about that, focus more on what you know, what you understand for you. Why not just be still. Just be still……. Surround yourself with those who understand how to separate what they don’t have control of in your life. Which is nothing at all……..

So when an out pour of rain, rain, rain comes trashing down on you/on us just be still… Simply be still….be still…the clouds will clear away, the air will feel fresh and you will be able to put away your umbrella.

 

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