So it’s been awhile I know.
Where have I been, you ask?
Simply managing life…
Just when you least expect it, a lot of LIFE happens…. And takes you away from this, that and the other.
Don’t worry though.
Here is what I know….
Stay on the steady path, follow the rules, bring it to zero, feel the force and run the course. Everything little thing is going to be alright!
As the old year came to an end, and the new year flows into traffic, how ya doing so far?
Sometimes just when we think we are ok………yea we aren’t. Back into old habits, chasing something that doesn’t make sense, hoping for change… The question to ask yourself is this, did you live the best life you could this past year? Honestly did you? Most can say they did not, some can say they tried, which means what? We took the wrong fork in the road. The path we thought made the most sense really turned out to be more not worth the effort. Or it just wasn’t as we had thought, or dreamed it could be.
Here is what I know……
Live the best life you know how. Even for that moment, take it one step, one minute, one day, at a time. Nothing in life comes easy, most likely you’ll hit many walls. Don’t let that keep you from trying again, and again, and again.
Live the best life you know how. Only you can!
Don’t let them push you away from someone or something that could be an amazing opportunity for you and for them.
So when I was going through my s***storm of life, there was no man strong enough to stand next to me, to just hold me, to just tell me they were there to listen if I needed to vent. Nope there sure wasn’t (and that’s ok, it is a lot to take on), there were even friends who weren’t strong enough to just stand by me and support me. They all looked at my s***storm as drama…………it was not drama…….it was a lot of life happening in a very short period of time. Divorce, custody study, 3 different audits with my business, 3 different surgeries, a couple arm issues, lower back and neck problems add in 2 serious illness at the same time, yea a lot of life going on in under 2.5 years. It’s challenging enough to go through alone, even more so if someone is next to you trying to understand and walk in your shoes. They can’t! They shouldn’t even try. All they could do is just listen, be there for you when a venting session is needed and zero judgement! There is enough of that in this world, you don’t need it in yours in your time of need. Especially from someone you love, a friend or family member. Let’s do what we were taught in kindergarten, keep your mouth shut and ears wide open and listen……..
What I learned through that process was that I became stronger and knew that if I were to come across somebody male or female I would be strong enough to stand by their side. Because I had lived through what in my mind were many horrific experiences in a short period of time. Knowing that I had the strength to get through what I did and that eventually there would be light at the end of the tunnel. I am living proof that when you hit rock bottom and you fall between the crevices of that rock bottom you have to simply look up, grab that rope and tie a knot and start climbing back up.
You may get knocked out again, and again, and again and yes again. However when you look within yourself you find the strength and see that little glimmer of light and know eventually things seem to work their way out.
Some just aren’t strong enough to stand by that person and say I’m just here for you if you need me. Truly understand that it’s not drama………it’s life!
Why would you push anyone aside because they have life happening? That person could very well be the person who needs to be in your life at that time and then some! Don’t short sell them because they have a little or a lot of life happening.
So here is what I know….
Keep in mind always we all have life around us. There is so much so many don’t know about what we have going on. There is so much many can’t understand. No matter what life happenings are going on, remember this, you aren’t walking in their shoes, you have no idea, so stop judging already! Drama is drama, if you haven’t figured out what drama is………compared to what life is, then you are living under a rock. Stop, listen, learn, understand the difference…..You’ll thank me later!
Would you… Or wouldn’t you? That seems to be the question I have been planked with as of late.
Given the circumstances of any situation, when asked such a question I have to ponder why someone would ask me that and why? Clearly I have all the answers…Yea No………. I just listen, I observe, I pay attention, I have no opinion, I just keep it real, and gracious as I can. No one wants to feel judgement, but yet they want to know what you think. I won’t step into that realm of crazy. I choose to be still……
I was approached awhile back about someone’s season, the trauma, their let downs, the mess they seem to feel their life has come to. Knowing what I know about them, it’s just a bad season for them. My hope is that they learn from what they feel their mistakes are/were. They can power through and look at it as lesson time! I ponder what they can learn from the tsunami that is going on in their life. They can learn so much if they just try.
They could search within themselves to see how they ended up where they are and why. What was it that lead them down that path. Why did they feel it was safe. Where did they think it was going to take them. And at any time during this season did they stop and think about themselves and what they needed and mostly what they wanted…. My guess is that they were so wrapped up in the magic of it all that they put their true wants and needs aside for other things. As protection so to speak…… Because they are a people pleaser never wanting to let anyone down. It’s where they find so much joy.
However with that being said it leads their season to gear off down a path that isn’t what they thought it would be. I mean we all hope for something amazing, something Magical…. Yet deep down we all know it’s a rare find, that diamond in the ruff. Sometimes I think perhaps we want and need more then one can really truly give without them feeling they are loosing themselves. They are to afraid of giving up what they know about themselves and sharing that is allowing them to be vulnerable and exposed. Well what’s wrong with that?? Nothing, nothing at all… Why can’t we just be OK with allowing ourselves to be vulnerable and exposed about who we are? It’s human nature to have vulnerable feelings and emotions.
When asked what would I do…. . So here is what I know…..I simply say be still….live life out loud…… be proud of what………….. and who you are…..
At the end of the day you are the only one you have to answer to…
Don’t stop. No matter what scenario you are in, feel, express, share, mostly Live….. Never stop……
Put yourself out there. It’s part of what we need to do, to feel as humans. That no matter who, where, when we share it with. We at the very least can and NEED to share. NO one should judge us otherwise. Do not settle in life.. Sometimes we find ourselves in a predicament as we did once upon a time ago. And fear what our peers think of us. It’s human nature to want to share with someone what we are going through. And it not be about drama, but it is about life…LIVING….. What we are as individuals,………………… go through as humans….LIFE..LIVING…. it’s not drama.. See it for what it is… LIFE…..LIVING…
We have to believe in ourselves on many levels to see our best potential. What saddens me most, is when I see friends now, those of the past, potential good friends in the future, is that there is judgement…always….never……ending…judgement. How about we all just learn a better way of being still…Letting ourselves believe what you feel inside…If you just believe…. You to can find what truly feels good….. Who you are…And what and WHO you want to be.
Here is what I know…….Don’t loose site of who you are… For anyone…ever….. You have always been liked. You will….Always will be. Liked..
… Never forget that……
