Tag: People

What would you do???

Regina Phalange

Would you… Or wouldn’t you? That seems to be the question I have been planked with as of late.

Given the circumstances of any situation, when asked such a question I have to ponder why someone would ask me that and why? Clearly I have all the answers…Yea No………. I just listen, I observe, I pay attention, I have no opinion, I just  keep it real, and gracious as I can.  No one wants to feel judgement, but yet they want to know what you think. I won’t step into that realm of crazy. I choose to be still……

I was approached awhile back about someone’s season, the trauma, their let downs, the mess they seem to feel their life has come to. Knowing what I know about them, it’s just a bad season for them. My hope is that they learn from what they feel their mistakes are/were.  They can power through and look at it as lesson time! I ponder what they can learn from the tsunami that is going on in their life. They can learn so much if they just try.

They could search within themselves to see how they ended up where they are and why. What was it that lead them down that path. Why did they feel it was safe. Where did they think it was going to take them. And at any time during this season did they stop and think about themselves and what they needed and mostly what they wanted…. My guess is that they were so wrapped up in the magic of it all that they put their true wants and needs aside for other things. As protection so to speak…… Because they are a people pleaser never wanting to let anyone down. It’s where they find so much joy.

However with that being said it leads their season to gear off down a path that isn’t what they thought it would be. I  mean we all hope for something amazing, something Magical…. Yet deep down we all know it’s a rare find, that diamond in the ruff. Sometimes I think perhaps we want and need more then one can really truly give without them feeling they are loosing themselves.  They are to afraid of giving up what they know about themselves and sharing that is allowing them to be vulnerable and exposed. Well what’s wrong with that?? Nothing, nothing at all… Why can’t we just be OK with allowing ourselves to be vulnerable and exposed about who we are? It’s human nature to have vulnerable feelings and emotions.

When asked what would I do…. . So here is what I know…..I simply say be still….live life out loud…… be proud of what………….. and who you are…..

At the end of the day you are the only one you have to answer to…

 

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When it rains it pours……

Regina Phalange

When it rains, it pours…Sometimes it comes in droves..Overwhelming us with emotions that some of us aren’t sure how to handle. This could be with just about anything in our lives… Lets talk about Men, Women, Friends, Lovers, Careers, People…

Friends……… People…….Careers……………If we know what we know, why then do others question it? Why then do people feel the need to be in other’s business. if it doesn’t directly relate to you, why do we have to question it and go inside out of ourselves about it. Getting worked up about it, and putting it out there into the universe only leaves you frustrated, upset, angry and beside yourself. Why would you want to do that to………….. yourself?  I believe I have written this before, the only person you have to answer to at the end of the day is yourself. Stay our of other’s business, regardless of your play in it. Leave it to those who are directly involved and step away.  You’ll thank yourself in the long run. You personally don’t need the drama…..

Why does it have to be so complicated? With…….Men…..Women….People……..Friends……Perhaps because we have a connection directly with that person/or people.  Whatever the case may be, when it rains it pours….What do you do about it? When people (who become friends) come into our lives and then poof they disappear, they are gone…We ask ourselves what happened? What did I do wrong? Why is there so much noise with it? I ask why does it matter? Why worry about that, focus more on what you know, what you understand for you. Why not just be still. Just be still……. Surround yourself with those who understand how to separate what they don’t have control of in your life. Which is nothing at all……..

So when an out pour of rain, rain, rain comes trashing down on you/on us just be still… Simply be still….be still…the clouds will clear away, the air will feel fresh and you will be able to put away your umbrella.

 

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