Don’t let them push you away from someone or something that could be an amazing opportunity for you and for them.
So when I was going through my s***storm of life, there was no man strong enough to stand next to me, to just hold me, to just tell me they were there to listen if I needed to vent. Nope there sure wasn’t (and that’s ok, it is a lot to take on), there were even friends who weren’t strong enough to just stand by me and support me. They all looked at my s***storm as drama…………it was not drama…….it was a lot of life happening in a very short period of time. Divorce, custody study, 3 different audits with my business, 3 different surgeries, a couple arm issues, lower back and neck problems add in 2 serious illness at the same time, yea a lot of life going on in under 2.5 years. It’s challenging enough to go through alone, even more so if someone is next to you trying to understand and walk in your shoes. They can’t! They shouldn’t even try. All they could do is just listen, be there for you when a venting session is needed and zero judgement! There is enough of that in this world, you don’t need it in yours in your time of need. Especially from someone you love, a friend or family member. Let’s do what we were taught in kindergarten, keep your mouth shut and ears wide open and listen……..
What I learned through that process was that I became stronger and knew that if I were to come across somebody male or female I would be strong enough to stand by their side. Because I had lived through what in my mind were many horrific experiences in a short period of time. Knowing that I had the strength to get through what I did and that eventually there would be light at the end of the tunnel. I am living proof that when you hit rock bottom and you fall between the crevices of that rock bottom you have to simply look up, grab that rope and tie a knot and start climbing back up.
You may get knocked out again, and again, and again and yes again. However when you look within yourself you find the strength and see that little glimmer of light and know eventually things seem to work their way out.
Some just aren’t strong enough to stand by that person and say I’m just here for you if you need me. Truly understand that it’s not drama………it’s life!
Why would you push anyone aside because they have life happening? That person could very well be the person who needs to be in your life at that time and then some! Don’t short sell them because they have a little or a lot of life happening.
So here is what I know….
Keep in mind always we all have life around us. There is so much so many don’t know about what we have going on. There is so much many can’t understand. No matter what life happenings are going on, remember this, you aren’t walking in their shoes, you have no idea, so stop judging already! Drama is drama, if you haven’t figured out what drama is………compared to what life is, then you are living under a rock. Stop, listen, learn, understand the difference…..You’ll thank me later!
